Note: the following is written from a heterosexual perspective, but the dynamic equally applies to all relationships.

Do either of these scenarios resonate with you?

A woman with unmet father needs…

• Father was cold and distant and didn’t give her enough attention growing up.
  
• It affected her ability to integrate her femininity, as a father would have been the first man in her life to recognise that side of her.
• She spends her life going from relationship to relationship changing herself to match each man in the hope she will win his approval. Thus meeting the unmet needs for validation and love from her father.

In my practice I see men and women who are becoming increasingly frustrated at not getting what THEY want from relationships. Many are unaware that in this behaviour they are regressing back to the small child who didn’t get their needs met by their carers: mother, father or other primary carers. These unmet needs were so painful as a child that feelings get repressed by the subconscious and 'forgotten'.

Wherever you are, relationships are about people … whether you’re B2B, B2C, or H2H (human to human, yep … it finally happened).